The first part of this post is dedicated to updates and musings, so if you want to skip to the invitation, discounts, and other information, please scroll down.
I’ve had some problems sending my expanded email to many of our members, so I’m experimenting with another way of providing information. I am uploading this note onto our blog and sending this note to advise you to look for information there. I’m sorry for the extra clicking on your end, but it’ll save you from delayed mail and will save me from hours of aggravation.
Each month I find a topic to write about, and this time the topic is friendship, mentorship, loss, and honoring special people.
Amy Brumgard had been on our mailing list for some time before I met her. She invited me to present a few times at West Valley College where she was a Career Counselor. I provided information about job searching and networking, and in-between workshops, we formed a friendship.
Last year, Amy and I were co-presenters at five libraries in the Santa Clara County system. Our topic was helping job seekers, and we had full attendance for the 3-hour workshops at almost every library. Amy covered resume writing and the job search and I talked about interview skills, networking and LinkedIn.
Planning the workshops together, seeing how her mind worked, and experiencing her compassion and creativity was really inspiring. The first workshop was fine, but the second one – we were pounded! We learned a lot from that experience, as upsetting as it was.
We learned that most of the attendees had been long-term unemployed, mostly middle-aged, all frustrated with the job scene. Most had already attended many workshops about job seeking and we weren’t providing new information or job leads. And many seemed to have the impression that because we wore business clothing and were presenting, that we had no job problems, that our lives were running smoothly.
Amy and I met after each workshop and before the next, discussed the issues and changed our approach, some of our workshop content, the workshop description and the publicity.
This was the biggest change: we allowed ourselves to be human. We discussed our own challenges in a difficult economy and how we had bended or even changed careers at different points in our lives. Subsequent workshops were better each time.
Amy had a fascinating life, lived a lot of different places and had different careers when it suited her. She was so curious and… I’m struggling as I don’t want to sound dramatic, but she had this incredible thirst for knowledge and this fearlessness.
I learned so much from Amy, and she was so generous with her personal stories and professional time, even coaching me when I was facing a turning point.
She left West Valley College and moved to Rohnert Park. She loved that part of California and was thrilled about this change. She told me that if she were younger, she’d have gone into farming.
Amy was a cancer survivor and when it returned several months ago, it was very advanced. We talked a few times, and made some bad jokes, shared a dark sense of humor about mortality. She may have been afraid but she didn’t express it to me. She seemed accepting and peaceful and calm, and she joked at one point she didn’t know if that was depression talking. She didn’t want chemo: had been there, done that, and what time and quality of life would it bring? Maybe another couple of weeks of suffering? She decided to use that time to be with friends, to see family, to watch the changing light of day and look at the scenery around her.
We spoke just as she was starting hospice and she was pleased about the program. She had made plans with her friends who would take care of her. She asked me if she should pack up her books and get them to me. I could not believe that she was doing that at such a time, but that was Amy.
I called her earlier this week and Amy’s friend answered the phone. Amy Brumgard died May 11. She had used hospice for about a week and was surrounded by loving friends.
For those who knew her, you know what a gem she was. If you attended a workshop with her or maybe you knew her from West Valley or elsewhere, you were also fortunate.
There have been so many people who have touched me, people I’m honored to know, people who have mentored me and joked with me and they have enriched my life. I hope you’ve found someone like that, hope you’ve been someone like that. It’s something big to think about.
If you have someone you’d like to honor, send your write-up to me using the comment field at http://ourhrsite.blogspot.com. I won’t publish the comment unless it’s relevant to Amy, but will publish them in the future. I won’t edit and respectfully request that you not use this to write about me.
I realize this note is longer than our usual, so back to the mailing.
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We have a resource page with links and downloads for job seekers.
Many people list our group on your resume under “professional organizations” and in their LinkedIn profiles.
The past presenters’ page with some downloads and links is here.
In addition to this volunteer work, I have to earn a living. Unfortunately, I can’t mentor you, and please don’t send me unsolicited resumes. I wish I had the time to individually mentor you, but I don’t. With the time I take for this group, my work and my books, I don’t have time left over. Come to an event and meet someone who can help. I receive a lot of unsolicited resumes (from our group and strangers) and if I’m recruiting for a position or I’m paid to work on the resume, that’s one thing, but other than that, I’ve got other things on my plate. I refer people to the forum. See the blog: http://marciastein.blogspot.com/2009/02/setting-boundaries-and-professionalism.html
Thanks to DiAnn Walker for planning last month’s event featuring Lisa Aguair. Reviewing and learning about various leaves of absence is important and I really appreciated Lisa’s talk.
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1. HR Women & Friends Community Event: Wednesday, June 15, 2011, 6:30-9:00 p.m.
Our topic is "Change Management" with Professor Joyce Osland. All interested parties are welcome to attend this event, so spread the word. Please review event details and respond if you’re attending. If you’re bringing a friend, make sure that person registers, too. www.ourhrsite.com/hrw_RSVP.html
1. HR Women & Friends Community Event: Wednesday, June 15, 2011, 6:30-9:00 p.m.
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7. Additional Links and Information:
Randy Pausch was dying of pancreatic cancer, and as is the tradition at many universities, he gave a “last lecture.” His lecture was created for his young children but delivered to his class. www.cs.cmu.edu/~pausch/
Don’t have insurance? Breast Cancer Connections in Palo Alto WILL HELP YOU! www.bcconnections.org They’re also great if you’ve been diagnosed with breast cancer, have questions and need support.
Free Giving: I started a page on Facebook called “What’s Your Favorite Charity and Why?” and invite you to join me there. You’re welcome to post a little something about a charity and a link if you have one. Not all of the postings require financial contributions – some are as simple as clicking on a website.
Click daily on The Breast Cancer Site at www.thebreastcancersite.com and help support people who don’t have insurance or money for mammograms. You can send free postcards to a person serving our country. www.letssaythanks.com Build your vocabulary and send rice to hungry people through the United Nations! http://freerice.com If you want to donate to the community, many people need your help. You can evaluate many organizations at Charity Navigator www.charitynavigator.org.
Potential speakers/topics. Our volunteers select speakers and topics in January. You can still send ideas for speakers or topics with the understanding that this will be considered at the planning meeting next year. If you want to publicize an event you can do so for free on our bulletin board.
Notifying us of upcoming events and discounts. If you email me right after I’ve sent a mailing, I can update the website, but I can’t send a separate mailing to the group. It will be in the next mailing. Please keep this in mind and plan ahead.
I hope to see you at an upcoming event.
All the best,
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