Wednesday, October 2, 2013

Silicon Valley Women in HR...& Friends Mailing and Event Announcement

Dear Friends,

I hope you're well and that you can attend our next event where Sheila Dundon of Priority Leadership Group will present "Advancing Women Leaders: The Win/Win Solution."  Please note that our event time has changed.  

If you strictly want information about this event, please look at the links to the right and go to Event Registration.  Before you go, please check out the book links at the bottom of this page.  Last month, Christine Renninger, Marilyn Messer, Lisset Nevarez and Christine Young planned planned our event, with Candice Tal, CEO of Infortal Worldwide, "Fact, Fiction or Fa├žade? Connecting Background Checks and Workplace Violence." Thank you all!

Sheila will be talking about a topic close to my heart:  women and leadership.  Just for fun, I put these keywords into a Google Search:  women leadership statistics 2012.  The links are here.  You'll see links to statistics, accounts of women leaving technology, women being great leaders.  Such a mixed bag!

My next book is not going to be on this topic, but I would summarize my advice to women in the following paragraphs.

Be educated in your field and don't become complacent.  Things change all the time and one article, meeting, webinar or workshop will increase your knowledge, understanding, give you an ah-ha moment, change your perspective, change your career.  Your ongoing education is your responsibility, so if your company doesn't pay for a workshop, pay for it yourself.

Don't be afraid to be the only woman in the room, and don't be the only one to bring in the coffee.  Own your space and be confident in the things you know.

Be kind.  Be polite.  That doesn't make you a pushover - it makes you human.  Other people respond to you as a human being and usually treat you well in return.

Of course I have worked with people I don't like but it's not important that I like them or they like me.  Don't be upset if not everyone is your friend.  Friendship is important and I have friends in my life, but they are different than work-friends.

It's important to do the job you're paid to do and make your best effort.  Leave the drama at home.  The truth is that people at work don't want it and it doesn't serve you well.

Look beyond today and envision future outcomes.  Where do you want to go?  Break down the steps to get there and be methodical and patient and reach milestones and goals.

So there you have it, a few bits of advice from this end.  I'm eager to learn from Sheila!

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1. HR Women and Friends Community Event: Wednesday, October 16, 2013 6:00-8:30 p.m.  Sheila Dundon of Priority Leadership Group will present "Advancing Women Leaders: The Win/Win Solution."  Please click on the registration tab for details and note our NEW TIME.  
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I hope to see you soon.

All the best,


Marcia Stein, PHR -

Author: "Strained Relations: Help for Struggling Parents of Troubled Teens" and "Recruiters on Recruiting"